Friday, November 20, 2020

Changing your behavior at Workplace

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Changing your behavior at Workplace

Well, we all have some positive traits and some negative traits. And that is human nature. All the same, there are times when our behavior troubles others at workplace. Sometimes we are aware of it, sometimes we are not. If we are aware of it, wouldn’t it be nice to change it? So, how do we go about it? All we need to remember is the acronym AMESH:

1. Awareness: A problem can be solved only if we are aware of it. It is absolutely okay to seek feedback from our co workers to know that.

2. Motivation: There are times when we know we have a problem in our behavior, yet we do not want to acknowledge it. If someone comes and tells us about it, we may have a tendency to reject it. That way we are never motivated to change our behavior. All the same, if we understand the fact that our behavior is affecting others in a negative way, we can inspire ourselves to change our behavior. Motivating ourselves to change is a significant step.

3. Education: Once we understand and we are willing to change our demeanor, we can educate ourselves about the specific problems we have in our approach. For example, some of us may have attitude issues, some of us may have communication issues, some of us may not like to take ownership of certain tasks, etc. Once we know where our problems lie, we can find solutions to all those problems in us.

4. Substitution: Once we stop a specific behavior, a replacement naturally comes up. For example, if we have the habit of complaining about every little thing, if we stop that habit, eventually we start appreciating things. Similarly, if we have the habit of talking loudly, if we try to curb that, eventually we start speaking softly. So, we need to know which inappropriate behavior we should delete and which positive behavior should we bring in.

5. Habits: Yes, habits die hard. It will take time to cultivate new habits. However, once they form, they will be there. Hence, never give up. People will eventually notice the change in you. Yes, they may not applaud you but nonetheless you will find that they are happy to work with you.



Monday, November 2, 2020

Communicating with the 'Mask' on

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With the Covid19 virus scare, the entire world has adapted to the mandatory need of wearing masks and maintaining social distance. While this is certainly ‘the way’ to control the spread of virus, communicating with masks can be challenging sometimes. The reason being, people can’t see our expressions.  Here are some tips to avoid miscommunication while conversing with the mask on:

Practice talking with the mask on. Although it sounds insignificant, it helps. Well, perhaps for couple of minutes, you can stand in front of the mirror at home and practice.

Remember the acronym PAVE:

  1. Pause:  Intentionally pause in between so that the person/people you are talking to can respond or join the conversation if they wish to. That way the conversation becomes interactive.      

  2. Accentuate:  Stress on the important phrases and words. Use distinctive intonations. This helps in avoiding monotony and conveying the right vibes. 

  3. Volume: Watch out for the volume of your voice. Although masks can lead to muffled voice, it is important to ensure that we do not end up shouting.  

  4. Emotion: It is always nice to be expressive while talking with the mask on. That way, the person/people you are communicating with, can gauge your emotions behind the conversation. All the same, be careful not to overdo it.

Body language and gestures help in transmitting the exact message to the audience. At this point of time with the corona virus spreading like wildfire, shaking hands will not be the right thing to do. However, we can always wave at our audience. A friendly wave is a wonderful gesture.

True, with the mask on, your smile will be hidden. However, whenever we smile, our eyes smile too. This natural smile of our eyes will make the conversation all the more pleasant.